ADVICE FOR PEOPLE SUFFERING DOMESTIC ABUSE IN NORTH EAST LINCOLNSHIRE

by Steve Beasant on May 23, 2010

“In North East Lincolnshire domestic violence accounts for approximately 25 per cent of all violent crime”

What is Domestic Abuse?

Any incident of threatening behaviour, violence, or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults aged 18 years or over, who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. (Family members are defined as including mother, father, son, daughter, brother, sister, and grandparents, whether directly related, in laws or step family.)

Domestic Abuse takes many forms including emotional, sexual, physical, financial abuse and the use of intimidation and isolation. It also includes threats and harassment. It knows no boundaries in terms of sex, gender, race, religion or social status. Therefore it can affect all members of society.

Domestic Abuse rises from a misuse of power and exercise of control by one person over another. This is usually men over women, but can be women controlling men. It can also take place within same sex relationships.

Domestic Abuse is rarely a one-off event. If you are living in an abusive relationship, you are probably finding it very hard to cope. If you are living in fear of someone with whom you have had or are having a close personal relationship you can get help, support and information. This can then help you make choices about your safety.

What can I do to help myself?

If you’re in an abusive relationship there are three important steps you can take:

1. Recognise that it is happening to you

2. Accept that you’re not to blame

3. Above all, get help and support

The most important thing you can do is tell someone. You may find this to be a quick and simple decision or a long and painful one as you struggle against the practical and emotional reasons for staying in an abusive relationship.

If you are living in an abusive relationship seek advice and support and never be afraid of asking for help.

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Further Help & Advice

Woman’s Aid – offers a variety of support to women and children experiencing domestic abuse

Tel No: 01472 575757

www.womensaidnel.org/

Grimsby & Scunthorpe Rape Crisis – offers a free advice, support, signposting and confidential listening service to male and female victims of rape and sexual abuse

Tel No: 0800 197 4787

www.rapecrisis.org.uk/

Victim Support – offers free and confidential support to victims of crime

Tel No: 01472 250251

www.victimsupport.org.uk/

Male Helplines

M.A.L.E. – a confidential helpline for all men experiencing domestic violence by a current or ex-partner

Tel No: 0808 801 0327

www.mensadviceline.org.uk/

MANKIND – is a help-line service for male victims of domestic abuse

Tel No: 01823 334244

www.mankind.org.uk/